The show looks at what happens when people have doubts about the faith tradition in which they were raised, and how the sharing of personal stories can be a means to heal from spiritual trauma.
— Read on www.cbsnews.com/video/deconstructing-my-religion/
A few days ago I stuck my neck out and submitted a chapter for publication to the online magazine Feminine Collective. They said yes!
Fair warning, the content is erotic. Proceed with caution if you are squeamish about such things. If not, follow the link below to read it and erm….. you’re welcome.
I don’t know about you, but I didn’t sleep much last night. More dead black men killed by police officers. Children traumatized for life. Five dead police officers. Our beloved America feels like a dark, somber, hopeless place. Now that these killings are on social media, no one can deny the problem. Systemic racism is not new. Overuse of deadly force against black men is not new. The killing of police officers is not new, either. Now we watch it happen.
While I do not begrudge anyone their personal faith, believe it or not, praying for peace is not enough. Thoughts and prayers are not enough; not while people bleed to death on sidewalks. Praying for peace serves one purpose: to make yourself feel better and there is nothing wrong with that. We would probably all like to feel better right now. Send thoughts and prayers; by all means, do that. And then get off your fat, white, royal wally and do something about it, because we have no right to relax. I am speaking to myself here as much as anyone. I have not lifted a finger to involve myself in this struggle beyond sharing stuff I didn’t write on Facebook, aka lip service. I mean, I hardly ever even see black people in my white corner of town. I see cops; they park outside the coffee shop in the park where I run and I feel safe and protected in case a seagull tries to snatch my hat. Let’s be clear: racism is a WHITE problem and will not change until white people like myself give enough of a crap to put down our phones and get to work in our communities. It means getting uncomfortable. It means getting political. It means doing something.
As Trevor Noah so succinctly put it, we can, indeed we MUST, be both pro-law enforcement AND pro-black people. It is not the job of black people to stop racism. It is the job of white people. In the same way that rape culture will never disappear without the direct involvement of men, racism will never be squelched without the direct involvement of white people. It is not the job of the black community to tell us how, either, yet someone has graciously done so. So what’s a sheltered fat-assed white woman to do?
What You Can Do Right Now About Police Brutality
15 Things Your City Can Do Right Now to End Police Brutality
I am still working my way through these. Let’s get to work because I read somewhere that faith without works is dead.
Bob has no food.
I came across this blog post on good ol’ Facebook and it stopped me in my tracks. So many of my own experiences and those I grew up around are piercingly described here, as is the truth their effect on young lives. Please take a few minutes to follow the link below and read.
Yesterday while driving around town I spotted a sign outside a business that said, “There is no hope in logic.”
This sentence jumped into my brain and ran around in circles. What the heck does that even mean? I wondered. In the interest of full disclosure, this business’ sign often has clearly christian perspective. But this I pondered.
The belief that there is no hope in logic is a perspective I find remarkably sad and, let me just say it, wrong. Logic gives us a path to follow, clear actions to take. Logic gives us power and direction. When we can see connections between our own actions and their effects or, on a larger scale, between public policies and statistics, then we can make positive changes. Changes can be made immediately and with intent, no waiting. The ability to make changes gives us every reason to hope for a better future whether we are talking about our own life or the future of our country or our planet. Reliance on hope, also known as wishing, gives us an excuse to sit back and let things happen.
Life can be overwhelming at times, with stresses and worries that are difficult to shoulder. Sometimes there is no fix. It is necessary to take the time to listen to the still, small voice, to let go of the things that are out of our control. It is also necessary to get up again, put one foot in front of the other, do the work before us according to the logic of our abilities and priorities. It is possible that is where true hope lies, in our own efforts to make things better and in knowing we have worked hard and done all we can do. Then sit back, have a beer and hope for the best.
There is no hope without logic.
While most folks are breathing a sigh of relief at the better-late-than-never decision of SCOTUS regarding marriage equality, the reaction of some reminds me like a punch in the gut of what it really means to be fundamentalist christian. I am reminded why I fled so many years ago, to escape the suffocating judgement and infuriating self-righteousness.
It is impossible for me to comprehend the mental gymnastics required to put oneself in a positon of authority over other humans simply because one has swallowed a “belief” about who they are. There is a lot of talk about god’s wrath and judgement day, akin to a mother telling a misbehaving child “just wait until your father gets home.” Covert fundamentalists aren’t much better, with their judgement–lite attitude of love the sinner, hate the sin. It is still a position of false superiority; willful ignorance of what it means to be gay. If you are not gay, you do not understand and have no right to impose your conjured criteria on anyone. When belief and dogma come before the rights and well-being of actual people, there is no love involved. Judgement and love, like oil and water, cannot exist in the same space. Remember the story of Ruby Bridges, the little girl that federal marshals escorted into her newly integrated elementary school in New Orleans? The furious, slathering white horde screamed at her as she walked their gauntlet. Fundamentalists are the new face of that hateful crowd. They are threatened and angry and they have lost this fight just like the racists lost that one. There is no judgement day coming for gay people. It already came and they are free.
I don’t know who created this diagram, but it explained my life to me in one picture.
At this point, my story meanders through the maze of how my experiences shaped my choices and how I corrected course. Because it involves my children and former spouse and current life, I am not going to publish those details in my blog. The story comes full circle in the end, complete with a true love happy ending.
Many of you have encouraged me to put my story into book form, and I will. Having never written a book before, I have no idea how long that will take, but I am anxious to get started. Thank you for your encouragement and support. For those of you who have held your tongue, thanks for that, too.