Resources for Recovering Karens (Including Me)

Want to help? Not sure how? Here is a list of links to a staggering amount of resources from black scholars, activists, and authors to help us get started:

First things first: Do not say “All Lives Matter.” Here’s why.

Blackout 2020: Economic Boycott Day. On July 7, 2020 no one spends ANY MONEY AT ALL. Take a day off of shopping to demonstrate the degree to which black people drive our economy. You don’t have to be black to not shop on July 7th.

75 Things White People Can Do for Racial Justice. A comprehensive list.

Anti-racism Resources. Books and movies for adults and children, and social media

links.

Black Lives Matter – the official website. Understand the movement. Donate while you are there.

How to Make This Moment the Point for Real Change by Barak Obama. New post about how to get involved to make real change fueled by the momentum of the protests. Links to his activism toolkit is in the article, toward the end. Includes information on how to make sure your community police department uses community policing. Police your police and VOTE.

Me & White Supremacy Workbook by Layla F. Saad. Tool for white people to explore how we benefit from the oppression of people of color without even realizing it. Includes writing exercises.

CHILDREN’S BOOKS THAT DISCUSS RACE & RACISM. Twitter thread.

 

DONATE:

Official George Floyd Memorial Fund

17 Charities for Black Causes

The Colin Kaepernick Know Your Rights Legal Defense Fund

Campaign Zero

NAACP Legal Defense Fund

Black Lives Matter

Donate to any and all political candidates who pledge to support police reform and equality.

 

White-sourced groups to join:

Join the Non-black people for Black lives Facebook page. This is an action-based group for white accountability.

Join SURJ – Showing Up For Racial Justice. Another white-sourced group for white education and activism.

 

A short list of “Don’ts”:

Do not say “All Lives Matter.” Here’s why. (Yes, this is on here twice. It’s that important and the place where many white people start this journey.)

Do not post pictures of yourself at protests. Being there is the least we can do and is not cause for self-congratulation.

DO NOT post pictures of other protestors, especially black people. Facial recognition profiling is a thing.

Do not post your emotional catharsis on social media. It’s not about you. Don’t unload on your black friends, either.

Catch yourself before doing or saying anything that CENTERS YOU. This is what we do; this is the problem. That’s what makes us Karens.

Instead of using the general term “racism,” say “white supremacy,” which is more specific. Try it; language matters.

Figure out how to help and change on your own or with your white friends. Do not ask your black friends to hold your hand and educate you. They are tired. Abusers cannot expect support from the abused.

We have a lot of work to do. As Layla F. Saad says, “White supremacy is not the shark, its the water.”

Apocalypse Now

In my head there is a Venn diagram of rapture cultists/biblical literalists, assault rifle packers/MAGA hat wearers, and the transnational crime syndicate of billionaires. They all come together to support Donald Trump. (FYI, he’s part of the transnational crime syndicate.)

Here’s what they all have in common, the reason they all belong to the celebrity cult of DJT: they do not care about anyone but themselves.

Let’s start with the angry, white deplorables in red hats, toting assault rifles and flags because they can’t handle being mildly inconvenienced, even to protect other people from being killed by a virus they might be carrying. They seem to be itching for a fight to protect their status as white supremacists. White, domestic terrorists are the number threat to the United States. I’m willing to bet most of these folks identify as Christian. I am also willing to bet none of them are billionaires. They are easy to discount because they seem so over-the-top ridiculous but if Trump wants chaos in the streets, they’ll provide.

Rapture cultists make up the hardcore evangelical base that supports Trump. Life on earth is temporary, we are all just killing time until Jesus whisks the righteous away. Important to note: righteousness is determined by beliefs, not by compassion. So they do not have to care about climate change, babies in cages, justice inequality, LGBTQ folks, higher education, or healthcare. This life being temporary means they do not care if they die (they will see Jesus sooner!). If they do not value their own life here on planet earth, why in the world would they care about yours?

Ok, the transnational crime syndicate billionaires. Billionaires protect themselves and each other; their allegiance is to money. Their network is global, not national. Citizenry is for providing labor and taxes; people are expendable. They support Trump because he is one of them. Over the past ten years, the power and influence of the mafia has grown exponentially (mostly the Russian mob). Governments are infiltrated and owned. Elections are rigged, treasuries are looted, including our own.  Our very own dear leader is in deep with some very bad people. He is, in fact, a very bad person. A criminal. All of this information is publicly available, so I’ll post links to information below, as this research has already been done and published by higher minds than mine.

Here’s where it all comes together-Trump (or whoever directs him) has stacked his administration with billionaire loyalists willing to sell out the United States for cash (Mnuchin), rapture cultists willing to bend the law to accommodate their beliefs (Barr/Pompeo/Pence), and white supremacists (Miller). NO ONE in this administration gives a shit about you. They are not here to govern, but to line their own pockets. Their wealth is increasing as we die. Trump’s own fatalistic personal philosophy is a lot like rapture cultists’. When asked how he handles stress during a 2004 interview with Larry King on CNN, Trump said (Kendzior, 2019):

I try and tell myself it doesn’t matter. Nothing matters. If you tell yourself it doesn’t matter-like you do shows, you do this, you do that, and then you have earthquakes in India where 400,000 people get killed. Honestly, it doesn’t matter.

 

Resources:

*follow the links in the text-they lead to articles that back up my claims. It’s a web.

Robert Mueller warns of globalized crime in 2011 speech.

Required Reading: Hiding in Plain Sight by Sarah Kendzior

Australia bans Trump for mob affiliations.

$21T looted from U.S. Treasury (that’s $65K each!)

Russia infiltrates U.S. Treasury in 2015

Ok, enough. There’s a lot more but you have Google.

Joy Unspeakable by Joy Hopper

Joy Unspeakable is a must-read for any ex-fundamentalist. Author Joy Hopper shares her story out of her abusive marriage and out of her own mental prison with honesty and good humor. She and her twin were adopted at a young age by a Pentecostal family. She immerses herself completely, goes to Bible college, and gets married, just like you’re supposed to, but the payoff for doing everything right never came.

Joy is, by nature, a positive, joyful person determined to make the best of all situations. Her belief in Christianity (the way it was taught to her-the Pentecostal version) shaped her view of the world, her marriage, and her own role within it all. Throughout every intolerable moment of misery she reminds herself to shove it down and suck it up for Jesus. Until she can’t.

Joy Unspeakable is a frank look at how the misogynism, unrealistic expectations, and delayed gratification of fundamentalism warps lives. Hopper tells her story without bitterness; her conversational style brings the reader along like a best friend on a road trip.

 

Voices of Deconversion Podcast

Here is my latest podcast conversation-hosted by Steve Hilliker of the Voices of Deconversion. (The intro has me spouting some truth by Glennon Doyle. I give her credit in the full interview.)

Thank you, Steve!

Here’s the Spotify link! Enjoy!

Link to my book: The Uncomfortable Confessions of a Preacher’s Kid

Untamed by Glennon Doyle

I have lived every word of this book; every page of this journey. But somehow, instead of feeling like oh I already know this stuff, I found myself savoring every word of Untamed. Doyle’s articulation of the process of shedding expectations is sheer joy. Her ability to centrifuge truth down to its essence and to turn a mind-bending phrase is so satisfying–it’s like getting the water temperature and pressure exactly right at the same time. Scoured, clean, and with only slight abrasions.

From page 122: Maybe Eve was never meant to be our warning. Maybe she was meant to be our model. Own your wanting. Eat the apple. Let it burn.

Amen, sister. Amen.

 

Order Untamed by Glennon Doyle here.  Do it.

Order The Uncomfortable Confessions of a Preacher’s Kid by Ronna Russell here. Yes, please.

Read that post I did about Abby Wambach’s Wolf Pack a long time ago here. FAN.

When I Was You: a novel by Amber Garza

When I Was You is deeeelicious! I stayed up way past my bedtime to read and finally put it down right before the last few chapters. And then laid in the dark trying to figure out where the story was going, picking apart the plot points, making sure I hadn’t missed anything. I literally could not go to sleep–no book has ever done that to me before; When I Was You is unpredictable, dark, funny, and layered and gets in your head like spiderwebs. The best part to me is the perspective it’s written from-somehow Garza creates the sense of total immersion in the main character’s head and, in doing so, raises the bar for psychologic thrillers. Pre-order now before someone spoils it for you:

When I Was You by Amber Garza, available now for pre-order on Amazon.

New Forward! Updated Cover!

The Uncomfortable Confessions of a Preacher’s Kid has been updated with a new forward by Thomas Fudge, author of Heretics and Politics: Theology, Power, and Perception in the Last Days of CBC.

AND a new back cover review from Amber Garza, author of the upcoming thriller When I Was You, now available for preorder!

Author supporting authors is a beautiful thing and I am so grateful for their support!